Thomas C. Rafter

Thomas C. Rafter, 59, of Danbury, formerly of Port Chester, NY, life partner of Phyllis Boughton of Danbury, died on Monday, April 28, 2025 at the Regional Hospice and Home Care Center, Danbury.

Mr. Rafter was born in Jackson Heights, Queens, New York on January 3,1966 a son of Patrick D. and Virginia (Triolo) Rafter.  He attended New York schools and was a graduate of the Culinary Institute of America.

A professional chef by trade, Mr. Rafter was a general manager with Restaurant Associates by Compass Group, N.A.

Tom’s number one joy was cooking, entertaining and caring for all his family and friends.  He was a giver and not a taker, always sharing a smile and a kind word with everyone he met.  In fact, he would much rather give than receive.

In addition, he enjoyed gardening and spending time in his backyard with nature. 

He loved the ocean and found solace by the sea.

He was a great man who touched many hearts.

In addition to his life partner Phyllis Boughton, he is survived by his step-mother, Lucy Rafter, two brothers. Patrick Rafter and James Rafter as well as several nieces and nephews.

In addition to his parents, he was predeceased by a brother Robert Rafter.

A Celebration of Life will be announced.

Burial will take place in the Cemetery of the Resurrection, Staten Island, New York.

There will be no calling hours.

Contribution in his memory may be made to the Families Network of Western CT, 5 Library Place, Danbury, CT 06810

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